Transitions are a fundamental part of life, whether it’s shifting between tasks, moving from work to home, or navigating life’s bigger changes. For adults with executive functioning challenges or ADHD, transitions often feel disproportionately hard, leading to stress, overwhelm, or procrastination. Understanding why transitions are challenging and implementing strategies to navigate them effectively can empower parents and professionals to feel more in control and aligned with their goals.
Why Are Transitions Hard?
Switching Gears Takes Mental Energy
Executive functioning skills like task initiation, planning, and shifting focus demand significant cognitive energy. Shifting from one task or role to another requires stopping what you’re doing, mentally disengaging, and reorienting yourself. For a brain already juggling distractions and organization, this can feel exhausting. For instance, moving from a busy workday straight into parenting responsibilities can feel overwhelming because your mind may still be processing work-related thoughts.
Time Perception Challenges
Adults with ADHD often experience “time blindness,” where the future feels distant, and the present moment dominates their focus. This makes planning ahead or estimating the time and effort required for transitions particularly challenging. You might intend to leave for an appointment but get absorbed in responding to an email, only to realize you’re running late and scrambling to get ready.
Emotional Regulation and Resistance
Transitions can stir up resistance, especially when shifting from a preferred activity to one that feels less engaging or more demanding. Emotional regulation difficulties can amplify this resistance, making the shift even harder. For instance, leaving a peaceful morning coffee to dive into a chaotic to-do list can feel emotionally overwhelming, leading to procrastination or avoidance.
Decision-Making Fatigue
Transitions often require a series of small decisions, such as figuring out what to tackle next or how to prioritize tasks. For those with executive functioning challenges, these decisions can feel overwhelming and lead to stress or inaction. Deciding whether to prepare dinner, work on a deadline, or help with homework, for example, can easily result in feeling stuck or unsure of where to begin.
The Benefits of Mastering Transitions
Investing time and energy into improving transitions can lead to lasting positive changes across different areas of life. Here are some of the benefits you can experience:
Increased Productivity and Focus
Smoother transitions reduce the mental lag between tasks, making it easier to maintain focus and complete activities efficiently. Clear rituals or routines can help you shift from one type of work to another without wasting time regaining momentum.
Lower Stress Levels
When transitions are more intentional and less rushed, the chaos and emotional strain often associated with them diminish. This creates calmer, more manageable days, even during busy routines. Adding buffers between tasks or activities can significantly reduce feelings of overwhelm.
Greater Emotional Balance
Reducing resistance and frustration during transitions allows for better emotional regulation. This improvement can enhance your relationships and personal well-being, making it easier to stay calm and grounded when shifting from one role to another.
Improved Work-Life Balance
Mastering transitions helps establish clear boundaries between work and personal life. With better boundaries in place, you can be more present in each part of your day, leading to a healthier and more fulfilling balance overall.
Confidence in Your Abilities
Every successful transition strengthens your self-trust, reinforcing your ability to adapt and manage life’s demands. Over time, consistently handling challenging transitions builds resilience and confidence, making future shifts feel less daunting.
1. Build Awareness Around Transition Patterns
Understanding your transition challenges is the first step. Reflect on when transitions feel hardest—specific times of day, certain tasks, or after particular activities.
Actionable Step: Track transitions for a week. Use a journal to note when transitions feel smooth versus difficult and identify patterns like low energy or emotional resistance.
Example: You might discover that transitions from work to home are hardest on days with back-to-back meetings.
2. Create Clear Transition Rituals
Rituals act as bridges between activities, signaling to your brain that it’s time to shift focus. They can be as simple as a three-minute breathing exercise or a specific cue like music or lighting.
Actionable Step: Develop a ritual for your most challenging transitions. For example, play a favorite song to mark the end of work and beginning of family time.
Example: One parent developed a “shoe-off” ritual—changing out of work shoes and putting on comfy slippers—to signal the transition to home life.
3. Use Visual and External Supports
External reminders and visual cues help reduce the cognitive load of planning transitions. Use calendars, alarms, or sticky notes to guide your shifts.
Actionable Step: Set an alarm 15 minutes before a planned transition to prepare mentally and physically. Pair it with a visual checklist of what you need to complete before moving on.
Example: A professional uses color-coded calendar blocks to distinguish work tasks from personal activities, making transitions visually clear and easier to manage.
4. Prioritize Time Buffers
Rushing through transitions heightens stress and decreases effectiveness. Building intentional time buffers between activities allows space to decompress and refocus.
Actionable Step: Add a 10–15-minute buffer between scheduled tasks to stretch, hydrate, or practice mindfulness.
Example: A mom realized that giving herself a 15-minute walk between work and picking up her kids significantly reduced her post-work transition stress.
5. Practice Gradual Task Transitioning
Breaking down transitions into smaller steps can make them feel less overwhelming. Instead of a sudden shift, gradually prepare for the next activity.
Actionable Step: Start wrapping up a task 10 minutes before the official transition, such as closing tabs or tidying your workspace.
Example: Instead of abruptly switching from watching TV to folding laundry, a dad uses a countdown method—“In 10 minutes, I’ll start laundry”—to ease into the task.
6. Reduce Decision Fatigue
Pre-planning decisions reduces the mental effort required during transitions. Simplify choices by creating routines or planning ahead.
Actionable Step: Use a Sunday planning session to outline key activities and transitions for the week. Write out decisions like meals, workout times, and childcare arrangements.
Example: A professional pre-selects outfits for the week to avoid decision fatigue during morning transitions.
7. Leverage Supportive Self-Talk
Negative self-talk during transitions often intensifies stress. Shift your internal dialogue to something supportive and encouraging.
Actionable Step: Replace “Why can’t I ever get this right?” with “Transitions are hard, but I can do this in small steps.”
Example: A parent struggling with a bedtime routine tells themselves, “One step at a time—I’ll get the kids ready first, and then we’ll read a book together.”
8. Use Movement to Reset
Physical activity helps reset your brain, making it easier to shift focus. Even brief movement breaks improve emotional regulation and energy.
Actionable Step: Incorporate five-minute movement breaks, like stretching or walking, before and after challenging transitions.
Example: A professional uses a two-minute stretching routine between back-to-back Zoom calls to recharge before diving into the next task.
9. Focus on One Transition at a Time
Trying to juggle multiple transitions simultaneously can feel overwhelming. Focus on completing one shift before tackling another.
Actionable Step: Set small, specific goals like “I’ll finish this report before taking a break,” rather than thinking about the entire day’s transitions at once.
Example: A parent focuses on preparing breakfast before worrying about the kids’ school drop-off, reducing morning chaos.
10. Practice Self-Compassion
Remember that transitions are a skill, and it’s okay to struggle. Self-compassion reduces shame and builds resilience, making it easier to improve over time.
Actionable Step: Acknowledge your effort, even when transitions don’t go as planned. Remind yourself, “I’m learning to make this easier for myself.”
Example: A professional reframes missed transition plans as opportunities to refine their system rather than as failures.
Bringing It All Together
For parents and professionals with executive functioning challenges, mastering transitions is all about discovering what works best for your unique brain and lifestyle. Start small—pick one or two strategies to try out and build from there. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection but progress: creating smoother, less stressful transitions that leave you feeling more balanced and in control.
You’re not alone in facing these challenges. By taking proactive steps, relying on external supports, and practicing self-compassion, you can transform even the toughest transitions into opportunities for growth and success.
While transitions are a constant in life, they can feel especially difficult for adults with executive functioning challenges or ADHD. The good news is that with the right strategies, transitions can become more manageable, empowering you to feel in control and aligned with your goals.
By building awareness of your personal transition challenges, creating intentional rituals, and using tools like time buffers and supportive self-talk, you can make shifting between tasks and roles smoother and less stressful. These small but consistent efforts lead to greater productivity, reduced overwhelm, and improved emotional balance.
Navigating transitions is a skill that takes time and practice, but each small adjustment is a step toward a more intentional, balanced life. With patience and self-compassion, you can turn transitions from a source of stress into an opportunity to reset, grow, and move forward with confidence.
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